This is a long post, so get a cup of coffee and a comfortable seat. It’s important.
Yesterday I ate a can of tuna and two hard boiled eggs after my Bulk Arms workout and I was reflecting on Sagi Kalev’s talk at our Pre-Summit meeting. He told us about living in his car and eating so much tuna, because that’s all he could afford, that he never wants to see it again, much less eat it. He went on to explain the process he went through to rise to where he is now. The most common reaction to this is—”I never knew that about him.”
I have people tell me all the time, “This is so easy for you, because you are you.” Well, as you’ll find out below, I was not always who I am today. The road to standing on this stage as Sagi entered was not easy.
See, it’s not our successes that define us. It’s the struggle. It’s the point when the dream, the vision, our lives, become important enough to us that we are willing to do whatever it takes to make them reality. When you’ll stay up late, get up early, work during your lunch break…whatever it takes.
That’s what defines you. That’s what molds and shapes your life. It’s easy to look at successful people and assume that they never were in the struggle, that they never had to hustle, that they never had to work.
Let me take a minute and dispossess you of that notion. Here are a few examples from my friends:
Mike Ryan—Mike was bankrupt when he became a Coach. About four years later, he is now a 15 Star Diamond, creeping up on the Millionaire Club.
Tommy Mygrant—100+ pounds overweight, near suicidal, smoking pot and drinking all day long, one foot in Divorce Court. Now a 10 Star Diamond Coach, Leadership Award Recipient, Creator of the 5 Step Invite Process and, most importantly, father to a baby girl with a new wife and one of the most well recognized and influential Coaches in the entire network.
Gregg Bird—Had shotgun and a plan to end his life. 2011 Beachbody Challenge Grand Prize Winner. Asked Stacy Hanna to marry him at Summit a week ago and she said yes. Watch this video and try to convince me this man never struggled—that he never faced adversity—that it was easy. He’s my friend, and I know him, so you won’t.
Now, my story. On November 14, 2007, my father died and I was devastated. I wasn’t sure what was happening and my life started to spiral out of control. We hadn’t had the relationship either of us truly wanted and we ran out time to make that happen. He was 62 and had spent about 20 years fighting for his life. (I’m 41 for those of you counting.) He had a neurological disorder that doesn’t have a name because no one famous has had it. At least that’s what the docs tell me.
“Is it hereditary?”
“We don’t know.”
I wasn’t living in my car eating tuna like Sagi, but it was the lowest point of my life that I had ever known. And, I was really good at feeling sorry for myself, so it sure seemed like the end to me. Seven years into a law career I hated and facing the possibility of following in my father’s footsteps was too much for me to handle, so I withdrew from life. Terrified of my emotions, and the reality that what I was feeling was natural, I retreated into a shell. No friends. Just me…alone.
In August 2008, my beautiful wife Monica dragged me kicking and screaming to the PSI Seminars Basic where I met facilitator Todd Campbell and decided that I was willing to do whatever it took to change. Not to make money, but to make the most of whatever time I have left here. To cherish every single moment, every single experience, and every single person I come into contact with.
I found hope in my dreams, my vision, my life. I embraced that hope and got to work. I woke up early and went to bed late. I worked during my lunch breaks. I was relentless. I sacrificed. If I was watching TV, it was background noise while I was working. I stopped playing golf (I was a 3.8 handicap). I learned new skills. I did whatever it took.
My hope is that you will follow us—that you will embrace your dreams, your vision, YOUR LIFE. If you do, and you are willing to do whatever it takes, you can have whatever you dream of, whatever you envision, indeed whatever life you want.
Your path is not my path. Your life is not my life. Your job is to understand your dreams, your vision, your life. I figured out most of the puzzle of my life at PSI Seminars.
Monica and I have both done the Basic and PSI 7. Monica has been to Women’s Leadership and I’m going to Men’s Leadership soon. I don’t know if this is for you, but if you want to talk about how to understand your dreams, your vision and your life this might be the path.
I want you to go. I want you to figure it out. I want you to win. And, I’m more than happy to talk to you about it. So, reach out to me via EMAIL or simply trust that this is in your best interests and sign up for the class.
P.S. Just in case you stumble across this some day, I love you, Simone and Nicky. This was ALL for you guys. You are my dream, my vision, my life. Thank you for the light you have brought to my life.